Wednesday, February 16, 2011

my least favorite chore...

Washing the dishes and emptying the dishwasher.....my least favorite things to do (just ask my husband, whom I wrangle in to doing the dishes any chance I get!). My reasons for disliking this chore so much:
  1. I feel like I am wasting water
  2. I always get the front of my shirt wet
  3. I don't like touching soggy food, so gross.
  4. Why the heck do I own a dishwasher if I am pre-washing everything anyway? (I am well aware of the "no-need-to-pre-wash theory...I just can't seem to get the hubs on board with that one)
So, I looked into some things about dish-washing in hopes I would learn something that would help me "enjoy" (if that's really the right word for it) this dreaded chore even just a little...and guess what!? I wanted to share what I found!!!
  • Don't procrastinate. The longer those grimy dishes sit in your sink, the better chance you have of getting sick . Insider tip: The substance that attracts the most bugs? Dried-on milk.
  • Add bleach. If you're washing in soapy water and rinsing in clear water, add a couple of drops of bleach to the clear water. Rinsing in bleach water kills 100 times more bacteria than rinsing in just plain water.
  • Pay extra attention to metal pans & silverware. These are the surfaces bacteria like the most, especially those hard to clean forks. So spend some extra time cleaning in this area.
  • Water temperature. The way you wash your dishes is more important than the temperature of the water, so if you want to wash with cooler water (save some money in the water  heater department!) then go for it, just make sure you're thorough with the cleaning.
So none of those things really help me "enjoy" the task more, but they sure do give me a bigger sense of urgency (bleh).
I guess it's time I get to those dishes.....


Tuesday, February 15, 2011

"No" is a complete sentence

While reading an article today titled, "Becoming the Person You Were Meant to Be: Where to Start" by Anne Lamott, one single sentence yelled at me from the ink of the pages:

You can say no, no is a complete sentence.

Wow right? Wow.

I know that I struggle with this. I have always been a "yes" person...and it hasn't always been in my best interest. I'm pretty sure you can understand, at least I hope you do. I always want to help, I always want to be perfect, I always want to please....but it's completely and totally okay to say "no" sometimes. This is something I am learning. I found this other article (surprise!) titled, "The Power of Saying No," that had some handy advice I wanted to share:
  1. When someone makes a request, it is OKAY to ask for time to think it over (sounds simple right?!)
  2. Remember that "no" is an honorable response. (You mean I don't have to give 5 reasons why I'm saying "no" because I feel guilty?!)
  3. If "no" is your response (and it is perfectly okay if it is) then start your sentence with the word. It is easier to keep the commitment to say "no" when it is the first word out of your mouth.
All simple things you and I can think over in our daily lives when a situation that deserves a "yes" or "no" answer is presented to us right?

So here's my challenge: I challenge you to say "no" to at least 1 thing a week.....and in my case, I'm going to leave my 2 year old out of this (because he hears "no" in many forms throughout the day as it is) so feel free to make an exception as well.

And when you do say "no," make sure you take notice and give yourself some credit for saying such an important two letter word.

Monday, February 14, 2011

It's a holiday, so.....

these are the only words I'm gonna write (so I can spend more time making Valentine's & date plans for tonight!)

"Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence."
Vincent VanGogh





Sunday, February 13, 2011

Work and Personal Responsiblity

I teach in Relief Society at Church (I'm LDS) the 2nd Sunday of every month. This month the lesson I am teaching is on Work and Personal Responsibility. I know when I am doing research for my lessons, it always helps to read how someone else interpreted the material so I thought I would share my lessons every month. (keep in mind, this is more of an outline....)
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"Work is always a spiritual necessity even if, for some, work is not an economic necessity"- Neal A. Maxwell.


Work is an eternal principle. What does that mean? It means work is something we carry with us forever, eternally, which means it is really important! We are actually commanded to work.
“Work brings happiness, self-esteem, and prosperity. It is the means of all accomplishment; it is the opposite of idleness. We are commanded to work. Attempts to obtain our temporal, social, emotional, or spiritual well-being by means of a dole violate the divine mandate that we should work for what we receive. Work should be the ruling principle in the lives of our Church membership.” -Spencer W. Kimball
But what if we aren't physically capable of working? Good news! "Work" doesn't just mean physical labor, work is anything that we do mentally, spiritually or physically. In the Gospel Principle Manual (lesson 27) it says "there is no real division between spiritual, mental and physical work."
“As with any other commandment, there is joy in its keeping. To work—honestly and productively—brings contentment and a sense of self-worth. Having done all we can to be self-reliant, to provide for our own needs and those of our family, we can turn to the Lord in confidence to ask for what we might yet lack.” –Bishop H. David Burton

Family Responsibility:  
Parents should work together to provide for the physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being of their family. Creating a home where principles of the gospel are taught daily and where love and order abound is as important as providing the basic necessities of food and clothing.  What can we do as mothers, sisters, daughters and wives to teach work and personal responsibility in our homes? It is also our job to show the enjoyment that comes from working....

Enjoying our work:
There is a story by Kathleen Lubeck in the 1980 Ensign that I found inspiring. You can really tell this woman enjoys her work! She starts off by explaining she is single with no children and works in kind of like an advertisement setting with a whole bunch of men around her most of the time. This is a snippet from her story:
Part of my work entails writing, and one of the joys it brings is cool, fresh paper, smooth and clean, no bent edges. I like to touch it, smell it even. I like it in pastels, in pure whites, in boudoir blue; I like it onion-skin thin, solidly heavy, textured or slick. I like it in reams or in tiny slivers of small intent. I like to see it waiting to be written on. But most of all I like the feeding that happens when I touch a fountain pen to the paper, and watch the thin stream of black ink weaving across it. Creation! Thoughts sliding across a page, somehow becoming tangible even though they can be physically touched no other way. It’s a minor miracle bestowed upon mankind, and I can participate, and hope to all my life, married or single, half-dead or alive, when I’m 96 and raising plants.
(can you tell this woman enjoys her work?! How great would it be if we could all describe our work with this much joy!)
 She continues on:
What more can I say? Honest work is soul satisfying. I thirst to meet the creative challenges of my work now, just as I anticipate that same drive to meet the creative challenges of my own home and family, when my life plays into that stage. I find the most important challenge is to keep growing and learning and progressing, vision fixed to the example of the Savior in all that I do. To settle for anything less would be sleeping on the job.
I love how she describes work as a creative challenge. I think if we all looked at our work, whether it be selling something or changing diapers, as a creative challenge we would all find more joy in the work we're doing. 


God condemns idleness:

The Lord is not pleased with those who are lazy or idle. In Doctrine & Covenants 75:29 He said, “The idler shall not have place in the church, except he repent and mend his ways” 
When I read this I thought: well what about “me” time? What about relaxing time?  But then I realized, what I’m asking for isn’t idleness, what I’m asking for is “leisure” time...
“Leisure is not idleness. The Lord condemns idleness. He said, ‘Thou shalt not idle away thy time, neither shalt thou bury thy talent’ (D&C 60:13). Idleness in any form produces boredom, conflict, and unhappiness. It creates a vacancy of worth, a seedbed for mischief and evil. It is the enemy of progress and salvation” J. Richard Clarke
Reading that quote took me to another quote by President Brigham Young:
 “Recreation and diversion are as necessary to our well-being as the more serious pursuits of life. There is not a man in the world but what, if kept at any one branch of business or study, will become like a machine. Our pursuits should be so diversified as to develop every trait of character and diversity of talent”

Now that we can see the difference between idleness (bad) and leisure time (good!) how do we keep from being idle? Why is it important to keep a balance in life between work, recreation/leisure, and rest? What can we do to keep this balance and to teach our children?

The blessings of work:
“Men are, that they might have joy” (2 Nephi 2:25). Work is a key to full joy in the plan of God. If we are righteous, we will return to live with our Heavenly Father, and we will have work to do. As we become like Him, our work will become like His work. His work is “to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man” (Moses 1:39). 
“Work builds and refines character, creates beauty, and is the instrument of our service to one another and to God.” D. Todd Christofferson 
What are some blessings that come from honest work?

When it comes right down to it, God seems to change us from the inside out. He asks us to do things that are hard for us, then as we struggle with these tasks, He gives us greater insight and strength so that we are capable of meeting the goal.  Work is a perfect example of this. The harder the work is, the stronger we get. God is helping mold us to be more like him and we get these blessings through the change that comes to us as we follow His principles. (found this on The Exponent website)



Saturday, February 12, 2011

The weekend of love....yourself


It's early on a Saturday morning. If I had it my way, I'd still be sleeping, but being a mother of little ones....I don't have it it my way :)





This morning I've been thinking a lot about food, and not so much how great and yummy it is, but how much I eat and what I'm putting in my mouth and how it sustains my body (or how it doesn't). Did you know in 2010 adults drank an average of 53 gallons of soda and ate 24 pounds of ice cream, 23 pounds of pizza, and 29 pounds of french fries???? That's a whole heck of a lot of junk (and I know I definitely contributed to that statistic!)

I read this super amazing book awhile back that taught me so much about myself and how I see food and use food and how important I really am, regardless of food. I would definitely recommend it to everyone. There's so many great quotes in it that I have written down at one point or another, but this is one of my favorites:

"We crash around in our bodies, let them lift us, hold our children for us, walk for us, without ever taking time to actually live in them" (or love them).


So, in honor of Valentine's day, I am going to love myself enough to start paying attention to what is going in my mouth and how I am using that to sustain my body. Join me?

Have a great weekend everyone! I'm teaching at Church tomorrow and will be posting my lesson at some point during the day.

Remember, it's Valentine's weekend, Love yourself!

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Thrifty Thursday: Haircuts!

Today is Thursday. Today is the day that I am home with my two beautiful sons all day, with nothing scheduled outside the house and no money being spent. So today, in-between the frequent trips outside to make a huge mess of the backyard and the intermittent dance parties inside, my 2.5 year old decided it was time for a haircut.

Yes, he loves to get his haircut. He has been asking me about it for weeks now. I know, he's awesome.

So, tonight, after dinner and a bath, I cut off his cute little blonde curls (don't worry, they grow back!). I also took a good chunk out of my knuckle during one of the many "ok buddy, hold still please" (I said he liked getting his hair cut, not that he's necessarily good at sitting still the whole time...)

Now before you get too impressed with the fact that I cut my own children's hair (and the hubby's too) let it be known I am a licensed cosmetologist. I went to a Paul Mitchell School and later taught at a Paul Mitchell school, but now that I've got these cute little ones running around, I try to find other ways to bring in money instead of cutting hair all day....

Ok, that's how I saved some money today, on this Thrifty Thursday. Tomorrow is Friday, and we've got big plans, so forgive me if I am unaccounted for....but you can rest easy knowing I'll be thinking about blogging :)

Oh, and I'd like to leave you with a completely random fact: The word "lethologica" describes the state of not being able to remember the word you want.

This happens to me every day. I doubt I'll be able to remember the word "lethologica"
either......

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

With my mind on my money and my money on my mind

"After a visit to the beach, it is hard to believe that we live in a material world." -Pam Shaw

Such a profound quote.

Money is on my mind today, in a big way. I am in charge of the finances in the family and normally I do a superb job (if I may say so myself), but today, I definitely did not do a superb job and I have been beating myself up over it left and right.

Then, I found this quote (remember, I like quotes...) by Clifford Odets: "Life shouldn't be printed on dollar bills."

That quote just seemed to lift a weight off of my shoulders. If I could just step back and breathe, I would remember that life isn't about the numbers in my bank account....it's really not.

That being said, I wanted to find some things to share in the money department, possibly some things that could help me (and you) live a less stressing life when it comes to balancing the checkbook.
  • Carry less cash. At one point I definitely remember hearing somewhere that carrying cash was the way to go over using your debit/credit card. But I've run into a problem with carrying cash, I see it as "fun" money, as having some extra cash. In order to fix this dilemma, I've decided to only carry enough cash for what I need. No extra dollars to tempt me into buying something (*cough* a really good cookie) that I don't need.
  • Stop saving my information with online vendors. This was my way of "saving time" when it came to ordering online, but then I found it a whole lot easier to click the "buy now" button since it was so simple, I noticed things adding up that I didn't REALLY need. Clicking that button ("one-click ordering" anyone?) kind of eliminated the feeling of spending, therefore, I spent more. So from now on, I will always say "no" when I am asked if I would like to "save my information for a quicker check-out next visit."
  • I will stop clipping coupons I don't need. Yes, clipping coupons is a great way to save money, if it's on things that are already on my list to buy.....but so many times I find myself clipping a coupon for some makeup or hair dye or junk food or....the list is endless. Coupons are great, when you clip the ones you need. It's time to skip the one's that look enticing but aren't necessities.
  • Did you know, an average family of 4 spends $4,000 on take-out every year?! Holy cow that's a lot of money! I'm glad we're not an "average" family!! Planning ahead is one thing that has definitely saved me money. I go to the grocery store (Winco! Hooray!) 2x a month and have my entire list in hand and my calculator in the other (and sometimes a few coupons) and I've definitely noticed my grocery bill has decreased. Eating out is now considered a serious treat in our family, which isn't such a bad way to be. 
This has been therapeutic for me, thanks for letting me download :)

One last quote:
"Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that." Norman Vincent Peale